Each day that passes gets more wearisome. Yesterday, I was contacted by someone from my past. Not so distant past, but 2012 nonetheless. I'll call him Travis.
Travis and I met via Plenty of Fish and never met in person. Instead we exchanged photos and phone numbers and and endless stream of text messages at all hours of the day and night for months. Literally for months. Now, pardon my French, but you can only irritate me for so long before I get pissed off. I finally came at him like "dude, we've been texting for like a hundred years...when are we going to meet?" Crickets.
Three days later, "poke".
WTF is it with grown ass men and the random texts???
I mean if I didn't have unlimited messaging, a diva would be straight pissed off at the random texts to see if I would respond. So I stopped responding. Two days after that, I asked him again...when we would get to graduate to actual phone calls. Again, crickets for a week this time.
So my sister sent him a text while we were in KC for the holidays that told him in no uncertain terms to kick rocks. So he did until yesterday.
Now he emailed me from an old email account...out of the blue...wanting to "catch up." It was going ok at first then he asks me "Dressed?"
HUH?
I ask him why wouldn't I be...to which he responds, "HA you never know."
WTF??? Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....my inner self says to me...bitch he ain't changed. He's still lame.
So I told him the following...(this is literally copy/pasted from the email I sent him)
"I honestly don't know why you're contacting me again after all this time. It doesn't appear that much has changed with you. In the past, at some point in our endless exchange of text messages you would say something sexual. Just like today. We were having a perfectly normal conversation then out of the blue you ask me if I'm dressed. Quite honestly it drives me crazy when you do that. Why? Because I feel like every man I meet thinks I'm a nice ass and a huge pair of tits and that's all there is to me. Here's the thing about me though:
I'm 35 yrs old
I'm single because I refuse to put up with bullshit. Between my grandparents and my job, I have enough drama. I don't have a PS3 anymore so I don't play games.
I'm only looking for men that are interested in dating. Period. I have enough friends.
In my opinion, dating consists of the following:
we meet...we go to places...we do stuff...we keep our clothes on...we may exchange a kiss at the end of the event if the mood and chemistry is right...we repeat.
At some point if we decide after we've repeated the "dating cycle" for a while that we only want to see each other...we commit to one another and voila...we have a relationship.
In relationships, I am monogamous and I expect my partner to be. I absolutely will not participate in any form of intercourse (anal, vaginal nor oral) without a mutually committed, mutually monogamous and exclusive relationship. Point blank and the period. No exceptions.
I have a horrible habit of over analysing everything. So at this point in time, what you need to know is the endless texts and never meeting each other and never talking to each other on the phone went out between us in 2012. It's the '13 now. In the '13, THIS woman dates. If you don't date you have the following options with this woman:
Pen pal - we email one another and keep it very very simply at that.
Friends - we may occasionally talk on the phone but we don't meet in person and we don't hang out, and we especially do NOT sext one another (i.e. dirty text message).
Go back to studying and not contacting me.
Those are your three options. There's nothing in the middle. This is where I'm at in the '13. I understand if you're not there.
Ultimately, one of us (most likely me) will end up aggravated this "thing" between us not having a name nor definitive direction. I'm not willing to do that with you again. I certainly hope that you didn't really mean anything bad by contacting me. Again...I'm overly analytical. Comes with the package.
Short version:
I have to know what your goal related to me is. If you don't know. I highly suggest you take some time and think about it. You can get back to me when you've made a decision."
His decision...to go back to kicking rocks. He's not the first one from the '13 that has had to make that decision. Some of these men online are really grinding my gears because I can only assume that THEY assume that online dating sites are for the desperate. It couldn't be for the socially awkward, or for the people wanting to meet someone from a different area...nope...only for the desperate. Sucka paleeze! When I see the fake, I'm calling him out. I'm going to adamantly request that everyone else that is tired of the dating BS do the same.
Like I said...I don't have a PS3 no more...so that means I don't play in the '13 sucka!
TTFN
